New Year's Resolved: Five Strategies for Success

 Happy New Year Dear Readers!

Are you resolved to make this year -- 2017 -- your healthiest year ever using your weight loss surgery tool? If so, then join me! I am ready for this fresh new start and I'm eager to go the distance to take advantage of my WLS and make this my healthiest year ever. I know it takes work to maintain a healthy weight and healthy attitude after bariatric surgery -- after all, I've been at this since my gastric bypass in 1999! So with your interest and mine at heart I'm pulling out some great advice I've accumulated over the years and adding some new nuggets of wisdom to this knowledge base so we can all be inspired and motivated to do our best in 2017.

Let's begin today, January 1, with 5 strategies for success. They work. I know they do. Give them a try and find out how attainable success can be for you.

Thanks for joining me today! I look forward to spending a meaningful year with you on this crazy journey we call LivingAfterWLS!

CHEERS!
Kaye

Five Strategies for Success

1. Preparation
The 5 Day Pouch Test is most successful when there is considerable preparation done in advance of Day 1. First, learn the plan completely. Next, plan your meals and do your grocery shopping to avoid a stop at the store during the 5 days. Finally, create a storm of enthusiasm as you embark on this experiment. Get excited about being in control of your health and nutritional wellness. Anticipate that you will succeed with the 5DPT, that you will emerge on Day 6 with renewed confidence in your pouch and the excitement that comes from taking control over the Carb Monster.

Review the Plan: 5 Day Pouch Test

2. Find a Friend
Do not travel alone. The power of friendship and bonding breathes life into our heart and soul. In the Day 6 book  I wrote, "Ask for help. Often I receive letters from Neighbors who have gone missing from our online community. They start, "Sorry I haven't been around the Neighborhood, I've been struggling lately." It is an odd thing that at times when me most need help we retreat. Let me assure you, there is always someone doing well in the Neighborhood who has strength to spare. When you are struggling don't retreat, come to the safe haven circle of friends and let the collective strength buoy you in your time of need. Ask for help. In the karma of life your turn will come around to give back in a friend's time of need."

Official 5 Day Pouch Test Facebook Group

3. Pot of Soup
Never underestimate the comforting power of a healthy well-made soup: it is your best weapon in the battle against the Carb Monster. Use any fresh vegetables that you like. Saute them in a scant amount of olive oil which will help your body absorb the nutrients and then simmer in reduced sodium chicken, beef, or vegetable broth until nice and tender Serve yourself some delicious goodness one cup at a time and feel the love.

Try These: Carb Monster Soup Recipes

4. Practice Kindness
It simply breaks my heart when I read the self-loathing talk so many of us express when we feel we have failed at weight loss surgery. I think because we are encouraged to set goals we think there is a finish line. But in this effort we are in the race for life; there is no finish line. Sometimes during the race we are full speed ahead and other times we are one foot in front of the other trudging along. I believe on most days we are doing the best we can to make it work in a world where it is much easier to be fat. So please, be kind to yourself. Treat yourself with the compassion and respect you show your dearest friend. Stop the self-loathing dialog and replace it with the generosity in your heart that you so willingly give to others. Be kind to yourself. Please?

More about the role of self kindness: Day 6: Beyond the 5 Day Pouch Test by Kaye Bailey

5. Focus
Practice mental presence during the 5 Day Pouch Test. Be mindful of all you eat, how you move your body and observe your energy levels and patterns. Be completely aware of yourself and identify the things that are working and helping you to feel refreshed and alive. Use the 5 Day Pouch Test journal to record your experience and focus on learning about yourself. Awareness is not selfish, it is part of the process of understanding so that we may improve our health and wellness. Carry this focus forward to Day 6 and continue to treat your body in a kind and healthy manner and avoid stepping back into the the self-loathing and unhealthy behavior that brought you here.
Download 5 Day Pouch Test Journal

Stop the Competition! This is a matter of your health.

Hot Off the Press!
5 Day Pouch Test Fall Special Edition

5 Day Pouch Test Fall Special Edition newsletter now live and available for you in our archive. Link below. Learn if too much competition is preventing you from reaching your WLS goals.

"Maybe it's the fall sports season that has so many of us in the competitive mood lately. Seems like things have really heated up on the weight loss surgery scrimmage lines where it is more popular than ever to compare and compete with one another in our weight loss. And while some healthy competition can be a great motivator the comparison of weight loss can lead to utter discouragement. I see it even with the 5 Day Pouch Test that people are making comparisons in how much weight is lost in the 5 days and if they do not meet that superficial standard they consider their 5DPT effort a failure.  It is not."   Continue Reading

What is the 5 Day Pouch Test? Learn more here: 5DPT Website

WLS - What is the real goal?

From the LivingAfterWLS Weekly Digest August 6, 2012
Link to Digest in our Archive

The Real Goal:  

Improve your health;

Celebrate Your Journey  

Remember, obesity is a chronic disease, like diabetes or hypertension. In a sense, patients are struggling against their own body's coordinated effort to stop them from losing weight.

Acknowledge the challenging nature of weight control by adopting problem-solving responses to goals that are not fully met. Remember, the examination of circumstances leading to unmet goals can lead to new and more effective strategies.

Improvement of one's health is the goal of obesity treatment.

Use simple charts or graphs to summarize changes in weight and  the associated risk factors that were present at the time treatment for obesity was sought. Looking at the big picture -- beyond body weight -- is motivational in one's ongoing quest to improve health.
--National Institutes of Health

View online LivingAfterWLS Digest September 6, 2012

Weekly Digest: Lies & Myths of Goal Weight

LivingAfterWLS Digest

The Lies & Myth of Goal Weight

Avoid the Pitfalls Associated with a Single Goal 

May 16,  2016

Greetings!

Note: This is an encore presentation of our Goal Weight Range Newsletter previously published 05/10/2011. In response to many many requests we are pleased to publish it again and share this information that has made a positive difference in the lives of many WLS Neighbors. Thank you for joining us today in this LivingAfterWLS Digest. Check out our follow-up to this newsletter published 05/17/2011: Goal Weight Range Part II: Super Morbidly Obese. Calculating Goal Weight Range: The Process in Achievable Phases. 

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May 10, 2011
Today I'm addressing goal weight as it relates to our experience with weight loss surgery. Prior to surgery patients are in cahoots with their surgeons as they plan for bariatric surgery, set the course and denote the finish line which will be crossed when goal weight is achieved. I don't particularly like to hear what I'm about to say and I know it is a tough thing for my WLS Neighbors to hear, but I'm putting it out there bluntly so we can face it and take action:

Few patients will ever reach goal weight.

There you have it. Numerous studies suggest that fewer than 20% of patients achieve goal weight. My work with patients of all gastric surgeries for weight management suggests the same thing. In fact, it is fairly common for me to meet someone who introduces themselves saying, "I'm one of those people who never made it to goal weight." Here is what you need to know about goal weight so it will cease to be a barrier to your pursuit of overall health.

Know This Truth:
It is the random method of determining goal weight that is flawed; it is not the patient who is flawed.

Goal weight is a random data point set arbitrarily with reference to standardized tables that are irrelevant to an individual's health history, age, co-morbidities and genetic profile. In most cases the goal weight creates unrealistic expectations for the patient. When patients do not achieve this random point of measure called goal weight they consider themselves a failure and "one of those people." Patients become hopeless and frustrated. These feelings almost always lead to rebound weight gain.

Continue reading the LivingAfterWLS Digest

Struggling to reach goal weight?

The Lies & Myth of Goal Weight
Avoid the Pitfalls Associated with a Single Goal
LivingAfterWLS Weekly Digest May 10, 2011We have received so much positive comment about the topic of "Myth of Goal Weight" that was addressed in our May 10 Weekly Digest. If you are struggling to reach goal weight or feeling depressed about your weight loss with WLS please take a moment to look at this newsletter in our archive. Be kind to yourself & consider this new approach to setting "Goal Weight" goals.
Link to Newsletter


Calculating Goal Weight Range
The Process in Achievable Phases
http://archive.constantcontact.com/fs008/1101189349792/archive/1105572133223.html
LivingAfterWLS Weekly Digest May 17, 2011
The Part II of this newsletter topic series addressed calculating "Goal Weight Range" (GWR) from a super morbidly obese starting point. "Remember: The objective with GWR is to create an acceptable range based on data and realistic thinking with some positive confidence building opportunities along the way." Review Part II of this topic here: May 17, 2011 Weekly Digest


 

From the Newsletter:
Thoughts from Kaye - May 10, 2011
Today I'm addressing goal weight as it relates to our experience with weight loss surgery. Prior to surgery patients are in cahoots with their surgeons as they plan for bariatric surgery, set the course and denote the finish line which will be crossed when goal weight is achieved. I don't particularly like to hear what I'm about to say and I know it is a tough thing for my WLS Neighbors to hear, but I'm putting it out there bluntly so we can face it and take action:

Few patients will ever reach goal weight.

There you have it. Numerous studies suggest that fewer than 20% of patients achieve goal weight. My work with patients of all gastric surgeries for weight management suggests the same thing. In fact, it is fairly common for me to meet someone who introduces themselves saying, "I'm one of those people who never made it to goal weight." Here is what you need to know about goal weight so it will cease to be a barrier to your pursuit of overall health.

Know This Truth:
It is the random method of determining goal weight that is flawed; it is not the patient who is flawed.

Goal weight is a random data point set arbitrarily with reference to standardized tables that are irrelevant to an individual's health history, age, co-morbidities and genetic profile. In most cases the goal weight creates unrealistic expectations for the patient. When patients do not achieve this random point of measure called goal weight they consider themselves a failure and "one of those people." Patients become hopeless and frustrated. These feelings almost always lead to rebound weight gain.

Why do we use weight as a measure of health?
From the time of our birth when proud parents happily announce our weight and height and throughout our life these two data points (weight and height) are used to assess our health. The reason? Cost and convenience. Collecting these two measurements is easy and cheap. Most medical professionals agree that the current standards for body weight measured by weight in relation to height (called BMI-Body Mass Index) does little to reflect disease risk, identify body fat, and in general presents a misleading argument for overall health. In reality, the most these data points reveal is change without indicating a decline or improvement in health. Yet we are encouraged with weight loss surgery, and by conventional diet programs as well, to focus on a goal weight that may have very little to do with the health of our body.

Today we go beyond goal weight to help you achieve better results that are health focused.
Link to Newsletter

Please join me with an open mind as we look at goal weight as it is used by weight loss surgery patients. Bear in mind that I'm not anti-goal weight. I am simply sharing the knowledge I have collected in building my understanding of how such a tight focus on goal weight results in difficulty and disappointment for many patients. As you read with an open mind add this knowledge to your personal experience and understanding. You are a powerful person. Harness your strength and intelligence as you engage in the pursuit of  better health and better living with weight loss surgery.

This is a longer newsletter than our normal weekly digest. I know we are all limited on time and asking you to read this may be a burden. But the content here is very important to your life-long healthy weight management. I hope you find it worth your while.

Happy Spring - We are all in this together!
Kaye
KayeBailey@LivingAfterWLS.com

Read the May 10, 2011 Newsletter

Link to LivingAfterWLS Newsletter Archive Index

The Lies & Myth of Goal Weight

LivingAfterWLS Weekly Digest
May 10, 2011

Today I'm addressing goal weight as it relates to our experience with weight loss surgery. Prior to surgery patients are in cahoots with their surgeons as they plan for bariatric surgery, set the course and denote the finish line which will be crossed when goal weight is achieved. I don't particularly like to hear what I'm about to say and I know it is a tough thing for my WLS Neighbors to hear, but I'm putting it out there bluntly so we can face it and take action:

Few patients will ever reach goal weight.

There you have it. Numerous studies suggest that fewer than 20% of patients achieve goal weight. My work with patients of all gastric surgeries for weight management suggests the same thing. In fact, it is fairly common for me to meet someone who introduces themselves saying, "I'm one of those people who never made it to goal weight." Here is what you need to know about goal weight so it will cease to be a barrier to your pursuit of overall health.

Know This Truth:
It is the random method of determining goal weight that is flawed; it is not the patient who is flawed.

Goal weight is a random data point set arbitrarily with reference to standardized tables that are irrelevant to an individual's health history, age, co-morbidities and genetic profile. In most cases the goal weight creates unrealistic expectations for the patient. When patients do not achieve this random point of measure called goal weight they consider themselves a failure and "one of those people." Patients become hopeless and frustrated. These feelings almost always lead to rebound weight gain.




Why do we use weight as a measure of health?
From the time of our birth when proud parents happily announce our weight and height and throughout our life these two data points (weight and height) are used to assess our health. The reason? Cost and convenience. Collecting these two measurements is easy and cheap. Most medical professionals agree that the current standards for body weight measured by weight in relation to height (called BMI-Body Mass Index) does little to reflect disease risk, identify body fat, and in general presents a misleading argument for overall health. In reality, the most these data points reveal is change without indicating a decline or improvement in health. Yet we are encouraged with weight loss surgery, and by conventional diet programs as well, to focus on a goal weight that may have very little to do with the health of our body.




Today we go beyond goal weight to help you achieve better results that are health focused.

Please join me with an open mind as we look at goal weight as it is used by weight loss surgery patients. Bear in mind that I'm not anti-goal weight. I am simply sharing the knowledge I have collected in building my understanding of how such a tight focus on goal weight results in difficulty and disappointment for many patients. As you read with an open mind add this knowledge to your personal experience and understanding. You are a powerful person. Harness your strength and intelligence as you engage in the pursuit of  better health and better living with weight loss surgery.

This is a longer newsletter than our normal weekly digest. I know we are all limited on time and asking you to read this may be a burden. But the content here is very important to your life-long healthy weight management. I hope you find it worth your while. 

Happy Spring - We are all in this together!

Kaye

KayeBailey@LivingAfterWLS.com

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