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Tuesday, December 13, 2005

Gentle Reminder: Avoid Grieving for Food

Hello Friends at LivingAfterWLS!

This is a time of year when we can start to feel sorry for ourselves because we can't eat the way we used to - we can't eat in the manner that made us obese. I am pulling forward this article about grieving for food as a gentle reminder that we do not have to be victims of our WLS. WLS was a personal choice to save our own lives.

Rejoice in the season and your new life! Happy Holidays!

After Gastric Bypass: Some Tough Love on Grieving Food

New gastric bypass patients say they miss food, they grieve the loss of food, they yearn for their old foods. Some describe it like the death of a beloved friend. The foods patients grieve for are sweets and baked goods, pasta with heavy sauces, and salty snacks.

Mourning for lost foods is a natural step in the re-birth process after weight loss surgery (WLS).

However, I submit this phase can pass quickly if we consciously remind ourselves that these very foods we have loved and lost were not our friends. These foods were killing us. These foods caused us to be morbidly obese. Prior to surgery a morbidly obese person is dying a slow death by over consumption and malnutrition. Poor nutrition and excess weight taxed the cellular structure of the body causing illness, pain and suffering. Weight loss surgery was a last-ditch effort to save a life and restore quality to living.

Say goodbye and good riddance to those poisonous foods. They are not part of your life any more and isn’t that a blessing? Isn’t that exactly what you wanted when you elected to save your life with weight loss surgery?

Losing these foods is not deprivation – it is liberation from the damage, pain and suffering they were causing your body. Celebrate their loss, don’t mourn it. I guarantee when you start looking at it this way the phase of grief and mourning will be brief because your mind will not allow you to simultaneously grieve and celebrate.

Kaye Bailey © 2005 - All Rights Reserved

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1 comment:

Anonymous said...

I am new to this site so please forgive if this subject has been talked aabout before. I had bypass surgery....TWICE! Yes, and even with this, I am now back to two hundred lbs. I am not really sure how I manage to sabatoge myself...I was down to 155 and thrilled with comments made almost daily to me. Why, why have I done this to myself?